The Post I Never Thought I Would Write: Turning My Back on The Natural Path

My daughter is 5 weeks and 3 days old and we have been in hospital 5 weeks and 1 day. I’ve held out on writing about this for so long because I was hoping that when it came to sharing this story, I would be back home, telling you all about it from the perspective of reflecting on a terrible ordeal which is thankfully over.

As it happens, we are still very much living this reality. My daughter is not going to get better. We have been told to expect to be here 6 months or even longer, though we are very much hoping to prove the doctors wrong.

Lots of things have stopped me writing about this until now. The idea of getting an article out of her suffering was distasteful to me. I had (and still have) a lot of anger towards nature, the one thing which I have always been so passionate about and so trusting of. Overnight my belief system, that of Karma, of the power of positive thinking, came crashing down and I was left utterly lost. The black and white outlook I had of the world, of nature and even of parenting was shattered. I had a lot of emotions to work through, and I wanted to do it very much in private.

The reason I’ve chosen now to write about it all is because I have seen the power of support. Friends and family have knocked us off our feet with their outpourings of love, their generosity, their kindness. I feel ready to let people in and share our story, though I don’t feel I have much to offer other parents right now in terms of parenting advice. This is such a big part of our lives now and I feel that after several years of building this community, I don’t want to continue to shut you out.

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A Day in The Life of a Heavily Pregnant Naturally Parenting Mama

Welcome to the March 2015 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Day in the Life

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have given us a special glimpse into their everyday.

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I’ve done day/week in the life posts before, but not during the late stages of pregnancy. I have to let you in on a little secret before we get started – I am not good at pregnancy. Physically I struggle immensely, and as the months go by my ability to walk, bend, roll over, or move in any way greatly diminishes, causing me to slow right down. I am now 37 weeks pregnant and positively sluggish, so I thought I would share a glimpse into my current reality as I naturally parent my four year old son and wait for the arrival of my sweet baby. In this post I share one photograph an hour to chart what our day looks like…

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Why I Got Rid of All of My Son’s Christmas Toys

It’s midnight and I am wide awake, rushing around the house with a bin bag, filling it with toys, toys, toys. Since Christmas, we have been drowning in “stuff, ” and it has been stifling.

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Get Misunderstood Monster For FREE!

Misunderstood Monster(This Offer Is Now Finished)

Misunderstood Monster just launched and in my excitement I have decided to give away twenty – YES TWENTY!! – kindle copies in exchange for a review on Amazon.

The only stipulation is that you must leave your review on either Amazon.co.uk or Amazon.com within 7 days of receiving your email link.

I’m offering this on a first come first served basis, so if this sounds like a good deal to you, simply contact me here, stating the email address you would like it sent to, your country of residence and let me know whether you will be reviewing on Amazon.co.uk, Amazon.com or both.

If you are in the first 20 to reach my inbox, I will send you a copy! (Mobi, epub and pdf)

Misunderstood Monster is my first children’s book, a story I wrote (and illustrated) after a conversation with my son and his friend who were playing a game with an “unkind monster.” I questioned how they knew he was unkind, and after some discussion they concluded that perhaps he was friendly after all. Just because he looked different, didn’t mean he was something to be feared.

The Shpiel:

When a boy bumps into a monster in the magical woods, he runs for his life. But he soon realises with the help of his woodland friends, that he may have made a hasty judgement.

A heartwarming tale of acceptance and friendship.

 

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Is Natural Parenting Outdated?

Carrying our babies close, breastfeeding on cue, co-sleeping and responding to our babies needs with love and respect is how parenting has looked across the globe for the majority of our evolution.

In fact, it is only in the last few hundred years that parenting has begun to take on a very different form.

These days this natural parenting style is still widely practised the world over, from Africa to Asia and beyond, mothers still hold their babies close as they go about their business. But it is no longer the case in the majority of the Western world.

In the quest for efficiency, progress and modernising, many of these natural practices have been cast aside.

Breastfeeding takes longer and means the child is more dependant on the mother, so quicker and supposedly easier formula feeding steps in.

Holding baby close and wearing them in a sling has been replaced with prams, buggies, strollers and other containers which allow the mother to “get her body back,” and keep the baby at bay.

Bedding down as a family is considered unhealthy and even dangerous, with parents now choosing to place their tiny babies alone in a cot, barred in and often in their own room in a bid to help make them better (deeper) sleepers, and less dependant on the parents.

And cries are dealt with, not as a matter of urgency, but instead, at the parents convenience, with disposable nappies left unchanged until “nappy change time,” with feeding and sleeping scheduled, with the attitude that cries for attention or cuddles are manipulative and to be ignored, unless you want to make a rod for your own back.

With our modern tips, tricks and techniques, for many babies the natural parenting style we have evolved to expect, doesn’t get a look in. These methods have so widely infiltrated our society that now it seems as if anyone who turns their back on them in favour of the age old ways, is looked at as a hippy, an eccentric, to be scorned and ridiculed.

For many, their strong belief is that our children are adaptable and these choices are simply a matter of personal preference.

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