I’ve had a terrible week. Little Cat (3) has been very hard work indeed, angry, blaming, purposefully contrary and just not very pleasant to be around at all. I have been tired, hormonal and reacting in ways which are very out of character for me. There have been moments where I felt utter despair and wanted to run away and hide.
Today I had one of those moments. I felt so stressed and angry. I couldn’t understand why he was being so very horrible to me. I stormed upstairs for a moments peace and quiet and caught sight of my book (Trust Me, I’m a Toddler) sitting on the bookshelf. Suddenly, I wanted to remember the calm and loving parent I know I am capable of being. I wanted to remember what I know deep down, to get some perspective and see the world from his point of view.
I spent half an hour reading and breathing, then I heard Little Cat crying. He was having a dispute with his Daddy (who was also very fed up) over changing the t-shirt he had been wearing for four days straight. I walked in and somehow, everything had changed. I felt calm and in control. Rather than an angry and disrespectful child, I saw my little boy, tired, and comfortable in his t-shirt, not understanding why he needed to get changed.
We are all human and we all have our triggers that frustrate and annoy us. For many parents, this includes the habit of spitting. We find it unacceptable and want to put an immediate stop to it.
But when we tell out child “No!” they only do it all the more! How are we supposed to deal with that and break this unpalatable habit?
The first thing to do is to look at it from the child’s point of view. There is a reason why they are spitting. This could be sensory fulfilment, a way of releasing frustrations, or simply exploring and learning about what their body can do. Telling a child “No!” is very frustrating for them because it only deals with the issue at a surface level and doesn’t address the motivation behind the action. So the child becomes even more determined to spit!
Breastfeeding in public can be a nerve-wracking experience, whether you are feeding a newborn or a four year old. In this video I share how you can increase your confidence and feed in public without fear or shame.
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I get a lot of people asking how our son can learn through unschooling. Am I qualified to teach him all he needs to know? How does learning happen without set lesson plans in place? Well it occurred to me that the best way to explain how natural, passionate, interest led learning occurs, was just to simply show you a little of our week. You see, where learning is concerned, every day is different and opportunities to learn can be found in almost everything we do. So here is a look at what we have been doing (and learning!) this week…