When you become pregnant for the first time, you are told over and over again about the difficulties to come. You are told of sleepless night and sore nipples. The end of your sex life and no more quality “me time.”
Then your angel is born and you become plagued with tales of teething, sleep regression, the terrible twos, talking back, distant teenagers. In fact its a wonder any of us made it through the stormy seas in to this journey we call parenthood. But I for one am so happy I did.
Because I have discovered something else. Something the many horror stories missed out, the documentaries failed to warn me, something that no book prepared me for…
Rather than becoming someone to battle with daily and to cause me stress and anguish, my toddler has in fact become one of my most treasured friends. He is the most incredible companion, kind, sharing, fun, inspirational and believe it or not, interesting too.
They warned me I would have to give up “me time” – They didn’t say it would be replaced with the most hilarious company I could imagine!
And so, I began to wonder “Why is this such a secret? Why is the best part of parenting left out of every tale?”
And then it dawned on me… Perhaps the reason that no one tells you this, is because it isn’t the case for everyone. And that made me so sad, because Yes my son is wonderful and great company and I am so lucky to have him, but so is yours. So is every other child born into this world.
Our relationships with our children can so often be sacrificed by our need to police and manage behaviour, rather than focusing on our connection to each other.
But in focusing on that very connection by allowing ourselves to bask in the relationship and really enjoy our children, the very things you were trying to manage and control will no longer be an issue. A child is much more likely to comply out of love than fear. Especially when they can see that what you are asking is important and necessary rather that an attempt to control them and interfere with their explorations.
The relationship I have with my son is so much more amazing than I could ever have dreamed of. Through his eyes the world is magical and everyone we see is a friend he has yet to make. Letting go and allowing myself to be a part of that experience has led me to discover this wonderful secret, this incredible little person. So join me in letting go, and discover the wonderful friend you have been missing out on!
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