I have been writing about the importance of breastfeeding for years, so it was rather ironic and very shocking to me when after feeding my son for four years, I was then unable to give the same gift to my daughter.
She was born pink and perfect, save for the fact that her digestive system just didn’t work. Over the months we went back and forth with our breastfeeding relationship. I offered her the breast as often as I could, though she continued to refuse it. I fought to get her tongue tie cut and I finally managed to get her to latch with the use of nipple shields. For a blissful few months we managed four to six five minute feeds a day, and I was hopeful that this would continue to grow, though the majority of the milk sat undigested in her tummy. But as the weeks went on, the milk made her more and more uncomfortable. She squirmed away from the breast, and when she did latch it would only be for a minute or two.
Then she had major surgery, and after that try as I might I could not get her to feed. When I did manage to coerce a few sucks, she would be so uncomfortable and distressed the rest of the day that I felt guilty and awful for pushing her.
I continued to express daily, wanting to build a stash of milk she might someday drink, and keep my supply up in case she should suddenly take to the breast. But as the months went on it became apparent that it wasn’t going to happen.
Continue reading What I Learned From Not Being Able To Breastfeed
In this new video I explain how we continue to parent naturally, even though my daughter has been unable to breastfeed.
Continue reading How to Parent Naturally If You Can’t Breastfeed
It seems not a week goes by before we see more hate filled judgement emerging from reality star Katie Hopkins.
This week, it just so happens she has targeted her venom towards breastfeeding mothers, with tweets such as:
“When your waters burst, write ‘piss off nipple nazis’ on your tits. Just to remind yourself of what the stronger, sane you used to think.”
“Women have the right to breast feed. But they don’t have the right to put everyone else off having milk in their tea. Put it away girls”
“Free to feed protest tomorrow. Expect the mammary militia out in force. Stand firm @ClaridgesHotel. Their sort shouldn’t be free to breed.”
Today, I was asked by a fellow natural parent if I was angry at her words or offended by her stance.
And I had to reply with a resounding “No.”
Continue reading Katie Hopkins – Your Views On Breastfeeding Don’t Offend Me
Breastfeeding in public can be a nerve-wracking experience, whether you are feeding a newborn or a four year old. In this video I share how you can increase your confidence and feed in public without fear or shame.
Continue reading How To Become More Confident Breastfeeding In Public
This article is directed towards those people who are offended when they see Mothers breastfeeding their children in public. I have been breastfeeding for nearly four years, and I have fed just about everywhere you can think of in public. From the supermarket, to the beach, to aeroplanes and restaurants, if you can take a child there, I have almost certainly fed my son there.
I have been really lucky that during this time, I have received very little negative attention and never once had anyone approach me and tell me to stop feeding my son, however, I know that there are plenty of mothers, some of my own friends included who have not been so lucky.
And so, if you have ever considered telling a Mother to stop feeding her child, or felt like it was your duty to make her stop what she was doing, I want to talk to you directly today.
Continue reading Offended By Mothers Breastfeeding in Public? Consider This…