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What I Learned From Not Being Able To Breastfeed

I have been writing about the importance of breastfeeding for years, so it was rather ironic and very shocking to me when after feeding my son for four years, I was then unable to give the same gift to my daughter.

She was born pink and perfect, save for the fact that her digestive system just didn’t work. Over the months we went back and forth with our breastfeeding relationship. I offered her the breast as often as I could, though she continued to refuse it. I fought to get her tongue tie cut and I finally managed to get her to latch with the use of nipple shields. For a blissful few months we managed four to six five minute feeds a day, and I was hopeful that this would continue to grow, though the majority of the milk sat undigested in her tummy. But as the weeks went on, the milk made her more and more uncomfortable. She squirmed away from the breast, and when she did latch it would only be for a minute or two.

Then she had major surgery, and after that try as I might I could not get her to feed. When I did manage to coerce a few sucks, she would be so uncomfortable and distressed the rest of the day that I felt guilty and awful for pushing her.

I continued to express daily, wanting to build a stash of milk she might someday drink, and keep my supply up in case she should suddenly take to the breast. But as the months went on it became apparent that it wasn’t going to happen.

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Is Natural Parenting Outdated?

Carrying our babies close, breastfeeding on cue, co-sleeping and responding to our babies needs with love and respect is how parenting has looked across the globe for the majority of our evolution.

In fact, it is only in the last few hundred years that parenting has begun to take on a very different form.

These days this natural parenting style is still widely practised the world over, from Africa to Asia and beyond, mothers still hold their babies close as they go about their business. But it is no longer the case in the majority of the Western world.

In the quest for efficiency, progress and modernising, many of these natural practices have been cast aside.

Breastfeeding takes longer and means the child is more dependant on the mother, so quicker and supposedly easier formula feeding steps in.

Holding baby close and wearing them in a sling has been replaced with prams, buggies, strollers and other containers which allow the mother to “get her body back,” and keep the baby at bay.

Bedding down as a family is considered unhealthy and even dangerous, with parents now choosing to place their tiny babies alone in a cot, barred in and often in their own room in a bid to help make them better (deeper) sleepers, and less dependant on the parents.

And cries are dealt with, not as a matter of urgency, but instead, at the parents convenience, with disposable nappies left unchanged until “nappy change time,” with feeding and sleeping scheduled, with the attitude that cries for attention or cuddles are manipulative and to be ignored, unless you want to make a rod for your own back.

With our modern tips, tricks and techniques, for many babies the natural parenting style we have evolved to expect, doesn’t get a look in. These methods have so widely infiltrated our society that now it seems as if anyone who turns their back on them in favour of the age old ways, is looked at as a hippy, an eccentric, to be scorned and ridiculed.

For many, their strong belief is that our children are adaptable and these choices are simply a matter of personal preference.

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Katie Hopkins – Your Views On Breastfeeding Don’t Offend Me

It seems not a week goes by before we see more hate filled judgement emerging from reality star Katie Hopkins.

This week, it just so happens she has targeted her venom towards breastfeeding mothers, with tweets such as:

“When your waters burst, write ‘piss off nipple nazis’ on your tits. Just to remind yourself of what the stronger, sane you used to think.”

“Women have the right to breast feed. But they don’t have the right to put everyone else off having milk in their tea. Put it away girls”

“Free to feed protest tomorrow. Expect the mammary militia out in force. Stand firm @ClaridgesHotel. Their sort shouldn’t be free to breed.”

Today, I was asked by a fellow natural parent if I was angry at her words or offended by her stance.

And I had to reply with a resounding “No.”

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The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff / Book Review

If you’ve been here a while, you’ll know that this book has had a massive effect on my parenting and writing, so I thought an official review was well past it’s due date. Find out what makes this book so very inspirational and the ways in which we have incorporated the ideas into our own parenting style in this video.

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