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It’s Easy to be a Peaceful Parent… When Nothing Stressful Happens!

newborn-1506248_1920Stress. It’s something we all experience at some point or another. For mothers of young children, teens, multiples, home educating families or families parenting children with medical issues, to name just a few, the stress levels can increase exponentially.

When there is nothing more challenging than choosing which bagel topping to have for lunch or what film to watch on Netflix, it is easy to be calm. But the more balls thrown into our ever juggling arms, the more our stress levels can rise.

Our children are like sponges, soaking up our moods, be they calm or fraught. And when it is the latter, their own stress levels rise to match our own. They reflect it right back at you, no matter how hard you try to hide what you are feeling. You cannot mask your true mood from them.

They know.

They know you so deeply, they see through the false smile. And when they mirror that stress, absorbing all that tension, their behaviour descends into mayhem. They have to release it. A calm, serene child has little need to lash out and be destructive. They have no urge to argue or shout furiously in response to your requests. But when their insides are pulsing with pent up tension, mounting stress, they have to let it out.

They have to explode.

And it is the worst possible thing for us weary, drained parents. We are balancing on the edge of patience at all times. We are so close to reaching our absolute limit. We can’t manage a single extra challenge. And we are suddenly faced with a child who neither knows nor cares that we are hovering at breaking point, who is lashing out, needing support we can’t summon up the reserves to give.

This is parenting at its hardest. This is when things fall apart and we react in ways we later regret. When we ignore feelings, when we say harsh words or forget how scary it can feel to be lost in such big emotions when you are so very small. It all becomes just a step too far for us to manage.

It’s so easy to talk about the merits of peaceful parenting. It’s all so wonderful in theory. But is it really possible to be the parent you so desperately want to be in these times of undeniable stress?

Fortunately, the answer is yes. But it’s not easy. It’s not going to come without hard work. But it is worth it. Let me share how with you now.

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Gentle, Respectful Punishments for Attachment Parenting?

I get a lot of emails asking me to give advice on the best, most respectful and most gentle punishments to use on children in order to help them learn boundaries and understand the consequences of their actions. In this video I share my answer and it may surprise you…

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Why We’re Still Co-sleeping With Our Five Year Old

*** I’ve put out more videos than articles lately so I thought with this one I would give you both a video and a written article to give you the option of choosing the one you prefer. Please let me know in the comments if you like having a transcript to go with the video, so I can do the same next time. ***

After filming my family bed video where I did a tour of our co-sleeping set up, it occurred to me that some people may be wondering why our five year old is still in the family bed rather than his own room.

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Are You Ready For a Revolution?

Family on Beach with KiteFor a long time now I have been offering a copy of my book The Parenting Revolution to subscribers of my blog. I know so many of you have downloaded and read it and I hope it has been an enjoyable read for you. But now, I am so excited to announce that The Parenting Revolution is finally available on Amazon, Kobo, Nook and Smashwords for your e readers. It is still COMPLETELY FREE on all platforms except Amazon, and we are working on getting Amazon to price match too. (You can help with this by going to the Amazon links below, clicking on the link in the product details which says “tell us about a lower price,” and copying and pasting one of the free sources below in the box. I would be very grateful!)

Many people dislike reading on their computer and I hope that this will help others to find and enjoy it too. This new version is extended from the original PDF so grab yourself a copy to read the extras.

And since you guys were the first to read The Parenting Revolution and I have never had a place for you to leave reviews, it would mean so much to me if you could leave a short one on Amazon.com or Amazon.co.uk for me, to let me know what you thought. As an author the best thing is being able to hear readers opinions of our work.

You can get your FREE copy here:

Smashwords

Kobo

Nook

This book shares the six simple parenting principles that will transform your family and your life.

Why am I giving this book away totally free? Because I want everyone to read it. I believe so passionately in the message of this book and I believe that if everyone knew the importance of these six principles, children would be happier, parenting would be more harmonious and many of the discipline issues families face today would simply fade away. Parenting in line with these principles helps children to reach their full potential in life, and grow into vibrant, healthy and most importantly happy adults. I believe that every family deserves to read this.